How to you plan to keep yourself afloat? In a relationship, how do you define what is right or wrong? When should you put yourself first and your partner second? Who is the right person to trust and who is the right person to ask advice?...and the sooo many questions plaguing you mind.
Not every one of these questions can merit an answer, or an answer that will satisfy you or stand tall on an individual’s moral grounds. So let’s take these questions one at a time.
How do you keep yourself afloat?
I think the key to doing that is making sure that the origin of your happiness is not limited to that one person. This does not mean giving any less importance to your loved one, but it also means not giving up your life to suit the life of your guy or gal. Make sure that there are certain pursuits in the day that are non inclusive to your partner and bring you the feeling of being alive and being a part of something else…It can be doing your dance or pottery class, or taking the time to call your best friend and having that chat that lets you share your feelings and calms you down..Make sure you have an entity of your own that separates you from your partner..And if that loved one is the right person, he will appreciate that personality and that side of you.
In a relationship, how do you define what is right or wrong?
So you just had a fight with you sweetheart, how do you say that every tactic you used in that fight of yours was justified? If you live by the proverb “everything is fair in love and war” (and this fight technically includes both) then it is a different story. However, if that does not hold true then I have one advice for you..i know this trick works quiet a number of times, but this is fundamentally wrong..when you say you did something, or planned something nice for your partner but it didn’t turn out because they had their own plans.. “Sweetheart I know you’re feeling sick, I had made complete plans of coming and taking care of you, but now your sister is there, what can I do now?”
These sound like extremely viable sentiments, but say this only when you mean it. Your partner might just see through it (even they must have tried this emotional blackmail at times to get to you) and then it can cause a lot more hurt then intended.
If your mind is not too cluttered, you will be able to hear your heart tell you that what you are saying is right or wrong. There are times when your sour mood will get you aggravated over things that don’t mean much in the relationship and you will argue over it. Even though after a while you can feel that the argument is no longer making any sense. Let this fight go. Just take the five steps that will take you close and give your partner a hug. This will put any argument to rest. You just need to have the strength to take the first few steps…give yourself credit of being the person who put that fight to bed.. feel happy and proud that you had the sensibility to let it go.( don’t let it go to your head, and demand similar favors in return).
I’ll put up answers to more questions in the next part of the post…hope you will look forward to it..
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